Chronic Complaining Is a Form of Manipulation

Posted from Royal Oak, Michigan--

Complaining is a hobby for many people.  The Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines "hobby" as "a pursuit outside one's regular occupation engaged in especially for relaxation."

One may argue that complaining is not relaxing, but I sure hear a lot of it in casual conversations in break rooms, on airplanes and in lines for the bank teller.

Dr. Gary Zukav offers a unique perspective on chronic complaining in his book, Seat of the Soul. Essentially, Dr. Zukav explains that chronic complaining is a form of manipulation.  Years of observation has taught me that complaining will not make our  planet greener, clean up politics or make the media more tolerable.

Do you want automotive companies to produce efficient cars?  Then buy smaller cars and stop buying gas guzzling SUVs.

Do you want politicians who represent the best interests of the people?  Then stop voting for politicians who are more interested in themselves than the issues and start voting for honorable, productive representatives.

Tired of reading depressing, slanted, bad news in the newspaper?  Buy the newspaper that doesn't use tricky headlines and shabby reporting standards. 

Psychologists say the best way to develop a new habit is to replace the old one.  Habit replacement is a great way to eliminate complaining. 

This week, try to not be the complainer or the person who listens to complaints.  After all, if you listen to complainers, you're the one being manipulated.   

Comments

[John]

I just wanted to say I met you in person when you gave a presentation in Montgomery, Alabama last year. I'm enjoying your blog. Keep up the good work!!